It’s pelting rain out there right now and it makes for a melancholic mood.
And it doesn’t help that I’ve just watched the latest episode of my all-time favourite TV series Grey’s Anatomy. Ahhh, that show always get me all emotional! But in a good way. (Because, apparently, the word ‘emotional’ has earned quite a bad rep over the years…)
The episode started off with: “‘I had a terrible day,’ we say it all the time. A fight with the boss. Stomach flu. Traffic. That’s what we describe as terrible when nothing terrible is happening.”
Don’t we do that all the time?
We’re resistant to any thing, relationship or situation that is seemingly negative so when such things, relationships and situations happen against our will, we complain. We protest. We blame and blame. We become guarded. We assumed the worst of every one we meet for the first time and if they turn out to be even slightly better than our original expectations, we get surprised.
“He’s an asshole.”
How many times have we heard ourselves saying that of our exes? So are all exes assholes and psychos? Then, doesn’t that make all of us assholes and psychos?
Maybe we were at some points of our lives but just like how time will always keep ticking, our psyches are also constantly evolving.
Or we continually believe that the future will be better than the present so we just put up with what we have to bear now in the hope that that future we envision will come soon.
But what if it doesn’t? It’s good to keep the faith that the future will always get better. But we gotta remember that the well-lived presence can ascertain that than just blind faith without being active in ensuring that.
It’s not just about positive thinking and feeding yourself positive affirmations. What good do they do if we don’t grasp the fundamentals of those so-called positive thinking?
Why don’t we not realise that right now is the best that we’ve got? That happiness is really not a destination. But it’s available right here and right now.
Those bad breakups or challenging work situations we’re now experiencing will only serve to teach us invaluable lessons about ourselves we can’t otherwise learn. So they’re all actually really really good things to happen right now!
Really. It’s really not that bad. ;)