He stole my Boost juice.
Because Matt and I are currently based in different cities for work purposes, any moment spent physically together feels so stolen.
Yes, we have the aid of technology to keep the distance nearer but nothing can be compared to being in each other’s company – most of the time not doing anything but just chatting, joking and laughing.
Long-distance relationships (LDR) are just not healthy, honestly. I’ve had four months of it and I can’t say I enjoy it most of the time. If you force me to be positive about my situation, well, there’s always good things out of any situation but LDR is just something I hope any couple wouldn’t have to go through. That said, LDRs are really good tests for relationships, no matter how new or old.
I know we are fortunate enough to not go on for more than a month without seeing each other. Either he flies in to HK or I fly out to SG. But it’s just not the same. It’s not the same talking over Skype about our days and etc.
It’s not the same if he can’t be next to me when I watch a movie to make spastic comments to. It’s not the same if he spots new pimples and can’t complain immediately out loud to me. It’s not the same if we can’t explore my new neighbourhood and discover new spots together.
Like life, relationships are made up of those beautiful little moments that bond the two of you together and make you fall in love more with each other.
Just chatting over the phone, sms, online or even Skype just doesn’t cut it.
So, our two weeks together when I was back in SG was very much necessary for our growth together. During that short period, I fell even harder for him. He confessed about the things he’s been doing as part of his plans for our future together, completely unknown to me all these while. And he was even embarrassed to admit to me. He had no idea how moved I was after he told me.
Well, he also had no idea the only confession I have that he’s been kept in the dark is exactly how much I’d been spending. But my embarrassment won’t touch him like he did to me, I’m sure. :/
So, even though he couldn’t be physically around all the time together to take care of me, he’s been doing his part of ‘taking care’ of me in future by saving ‘heftily’ on his side. This coming from a boy who didn’t understand the concept of savings 6 months ago. Love does do wonders sometimes…
During my two weeks in SG, I’ve also been visiting the osteopath at Matt’s clinic. I’ve been having a chronic backache for months and my mum has a serious case of scoliosis, so it’s been bothering me for ages. Matt was really sweet to schedule the appointments for me and was there for one when he didn’t have any patient, which was helpful cos the osteopath, Steve, was saying some jargon that I had no freaking idea about.
We re-watched the Lord of The Rings trilogy during the evenings, had sushi in bed, went out just to grab ice-cream, had long walks. Our time spent together was simple but every moment was pure bliss and happiness.
But I often wonder when can we enjoy that on a permanent basis and not on a stolen, temporary situation. Sigh. We’ll just see where life takes us, shan’t we?
On one of our walks. :)
debbs said,
December 14, 2008 @ 2:23 pm
tell me about it!
pohchin said,
December 15, 2008 @ 8:13 pm
I know exactly how you feel… and i didn’t have the determination to carry on, so i gave up. Don’t give up ah… all the best! :)
ngyilian said,
December 15, 2008 @ 9:45 pm
Debs: But you’re sealing the deal soon! I’m envious!
Poh Chin: Hey there! Yes, yes. Will try my best. Thanks for that! :)
jessica freeman said,
December 16, 2008 @ 2:56 pm
Hello
I really enjoyed reading your Blog. Recently I have been diagnosed with scoliosis, so I spend most of my free time researching and trying to find information on the internet. In my search I found http://www.scoliosisspecialists.com and they have introduced me to the world of SpineCor.. a flexible soft scoliosis brace.. I was so relief that I did not have to wear the hard rigid braces. I wear SpineCor under my clothes and no one even knows I have it on.. anyways, I look forward to all the updates. Thanks again,
Jessica
ngyilian said,
December 16, 2008 @ 5:16 pm
Hi Jessica, thanks for dropping a note and the advice. :)
Apparently, my case is not so serious that I need a brace yet. I need to do some daily exercises the osteopath suggested (though I haven’t been the most disciplined about it…).
But I’m gonna sign up for a few Pilates classes as well. It’s strongly recommended for people like us! Maybe you should take that up as well. It helps to strengthen our core and tone up the muscles around spine so they can support it better. Will update you if that works for me!
penelope74 said,
January 9, 2009 @ 11:58 am
I just recently began a long distance relationship of my own. We only live 3 hours apart, so it’s not *horrible* but we’ve each got young children which complicates things a bit.
I guess my belief at this point (and granted, I’m still very new to this) is that if both partners WANT to make it work, then it IS possible. Very difficult yes, but not out of the question.
Good luck to you! Cherish those stolen moments that you have and enjoy the good parts! :)
ngyilian said,
January 9, 2009 @ 12:09 pm
Hi Penelope,
You’re right. It doesn’t matter how far or what other complications. At the end of the day, all it matters is that both want to make it work.
And I’m glad we both want to make it work so that’s much easier. Good luck to you too! Hopefully, there are happy endings to our trials. :)