Archive for July 18, 2008

Why does it always rain on me

July 18, 2008 · Filed under food, love · Tagged , ,

I was prepared for grocery shopping in a typical neighbourhood supermarket, filled with fight-or-die aunties. I put on my headphones and tuned out into my own world. I got my trolley, with shopping list in hand and embarked on the task ahead.

I couldn’t believe the amount of vegetables I needed:

  • English spinach leaves (can’t find English, could only manage local! Do I really need to be this specific?!)
  • Iceberg lettuce (I kept staring at what I wrote and I was like “iceberg lettuce?! Wtf is that!” and I saw the sign saying ‘Iceberg Lettuces’ in a basket and I was happy. I found what I needed, I’m not gonna question what it means.)
  • Raspberries (CAN’T FIND IN NTUC! UGH!)
  • Sage leaves (have no idea how it looks like and after making several rounds in the fresh produce areas, just can’t find! Damnnit)
  • Rib-eye cut beef (None of the signs say ‘rib-eye’ so I asked the lady behind the counter and she said cube roll cut is the same. But but, cube roll sounds so… unsophisticated…)
  • Prawns (I was staring at the tiger prawns, white prawns and grey prawns. Ok, grey ones are out. Shit, tiger or white… White is fatter and more expensive. Should be better then! So I got the white ones.)
  • Scallops (why are they all frozen! Isn’t there fresh scallops?! Damn, I got a frozen pack anyway. S$16! Bah.)
  • Mango (There were only five mangoes left and four were green and the only yellow-orange one was bruised as hell. Ugh! Didn’t get it in the end)

You see, if anything goes wrong later, you know I could easily blame any of the above factors. Wahahaha!

And after an hour in the supermarket and more than a hundred bucks later, I just realised I forgot carrots!!! Tian ah! 

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“My perception is not your reality.”

July 18, 2008 · Filed under friends, thoughts · Tagged ,

Each of us has a perceived image of ourselves. This is who we think we are and it’s also who we believe (or hope) our friends and family perceive us.

Then, there’s the self that your family and friends really view you as. Sometimes, there could even be a few of these ‘selves’ as some of us could portray a different side of us to different people.

And it got me thinking, “so which is the real self?”

Another side of me thought, “Look, it’s been proven humans, especially women, portray different sides to different people, not because they’re manipulative but just being smart (then again, this can be a different story for a different day). Some people take to different personalities but that said, the said person is not being fake but just showing one side of his/her many different sides.”

But what if your perceived self doesn’t reconcile with the people closest to you? Will that simply become a lack of self-awareness?

Differences with my close friends could bother me for weeks and it frustrates me to no end why they could be so oblivious and not see where the fault lies in them. (That said, they could feel exactly the same about me.)

Sometimes, I take the risk of being honest with them (cos that’s what good friends do for each other rather then allowing them to continue living in their own lala land right?), thinking they would be able to ponder about what you have to say cos supposedly, what you said ought to have some importance to them. No?

Most times, depending on the friend, the situation gets resolved and the matter actually helps to deepen our friendships but well, I guess you can’t always expect the target to hit the bull’s eye.

And when that happens, I can’t help but feel saddened by how unaware the said friend can be of herself. And I can’t help but lose a little of my respect for her. The worst part is, she doesn’t even know that.

If I can help it, I wouldn’t want to feel this way. Why would I because it bothers me every time I think about it?

But just like the subject title “my perception is not your reality” (a statement I learnt in school), I try to remind myself that though we all live in the same world, we also live in very different ones.

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